Let’s talk about imposter syndrome!
This is one that I have been struggling with for some time, myself. I think we all deal with this in our lives and our professions and do not know exactly what it is, or why we are feeling this way. The good news is that you are not alone in this, and I hope I can outline what it is that you may be feeling as well as some steps on how we can combat it. I use these same steps myself when I am feeling this way, and I will try to share how it works for me.
Imposter syndrome is an experience that affects many people, particularly those who have achieved great success or are setting new goals. It can emerge as emotions of self-doubt, nervousness, or a sensation that you don’t deserve to be recognized for your achievements.
I question myself every day about the best way that I can be of service to other people. Am I really doing enough? Oftentimes when I look at other coaches, they might have better videos or a bigger following and get discouraged.
“Comparison is the thief of joy”
Benajmin Franklin
Upon further review, it seems that most of them haven’t overcome 1/5 of the challenges I have and while they may be experts in theory few have had to actually live it. The advantage I have is not the 1000s of pages I read or the hours of courses I have sat through, but my entire experience. Not only do I know how to reframe any situation to be successful and empowered, but I actually had to learn it the hard way, in my own life to get out of debt, poverty, heartbreak, poor health, and stage 4 cancer all at the same time! That alone puts me in a small club of people who not only talked the talk but walked the walk! Don’t get me wrong, I have learned a tremendous amount from reading and studying but until you put what you have learned into action, you cannot really empathize with others in the same boat. Anyone can tell you how to think positively, get in shape, set and achieve goals, or be grateful but I’ve actually had to dig deep to do it my own life, during the darkest of times. Believe me, when I tell you, all these things have to be done more than said. If someone had told me when I was sick that cancer would be one of my life’s biggest blessings, I would have thrown them out of my hospital room, yet here we are. We do have the power and ability to overcome everything that life throws at us. It is just a little easier with some guidance and support.
Even though all this gives me the confidence to tell my clients that if I can accomplish this, I can definitely help them navigate out of their own dark places, I can still feel like I am lacking, so here are some tips I use that you can use for yourself:
- Recognize your own advantages: Begin by taking a step back and acknowledging your own skills and accomplishments. Make a list of your accomplishments, skills, and positive traits and review it on a regular basis to remind yourself of your worth and abilities. I find that this is the most helpful. Reframe negative self-talk: Imposter syndrome is frequently associated with negative self-talk and self-doubt. When you recognize these thoughts, try to reframe them to be more positive. For instance, if you believe “I don’t deserve this promotion,” reframe it as “I worked hard to earn this promotion and I am capable of succeeding in this role.”
- Accept vulnerability: Many people who suffer from imposter syndrome feel compelled to conceal their flaws or vulnerabilities. Embracing vulnerability, on the other hand, can help you connect with others and establish greater relationships. Try to be open and honest with others about your experiences and challenges, and seek assistance when necessary.
- Take care of your physical and emotional health: Taking care of your physical and emotional health can help you feel more confident and resilient. Schedule regular exercise, healthy food, and leisure time, and emphasize things that offer you joy and fulfillment.
- Set realistic goals: Unrealistic expectations or a fear of failure might create imposter syndrome. Set attainable goals that align with your abilities and values, then divide them into doable chunks. Celebrate your accomplishments along the way, and don’t be too hard on yourself if things don’t go as planned.
Remember that imposter syndrome is a common feeling, and you are not alone in experiencing it. With the help of a professional coach, you can work through your self-doubt and get over imposter syndrome. This will give you more confidence and success in your personal and professional life, and I would love to be that resource for you!
As always, I am here to help!
